How to Make Friends While Traveling Alone (Without Being Awkward)
Solo travel is one of the most rewarding experiences you can give yourself. It’s freeing, empowering, and full of potential for growth. But even the most independent travelers crave connection—someone to share a meal with, go on an excursion, or just chat over coffee.
The good news? Making friends while traveling alone is easier than you think—and no, it doesn’t have to be awkward. You don’t need to be an extrovert or force fake small talk to find genuine connection on the road.
Whether you’re introverted, shy, or just new to solo travel, this guide will show you how to meet people naturally, build real friendships, and create unforgettable memories—without the cringey icebreakers.
✈️ Why Travel Solo and Still Make Friends?
Before we dive into the “how,” it’s worth asking why making friends during solo travel is worth it:
- Shared experiences feel richer
- Locals or fellow travelers can introduce you to hidden gems
- Friendships lead to deeper cultural exchange
- It helps fight off loneliness, especially on longer trips
- You might end up with lifelong travel buddies
But the goal isn’t just quantity—it’s quality. You’re not looking to collect contacts like souvenirs. You’re looking for real connections.
👋 1. Stay in Social Accommodations
Where you stay has a huge impact on how easy it is to meet people.
🛏️ Try:
- Hostels: Even if you’re older or want privacy, many hostels offer private rooms with access to shared lounges, kitchens, and events.
- Guesthouses & Homestays: Family-run places often create a natural, cozy environment where it’s easy to chat.
- Co-living spaces or digital nomad hubs: Ideal for remote workers and long-term travelers.
💡 Tip:
Look for accommodations that host group dinners, game nights, or tours. These are low-pressure ways to meet others without awkward introductions.
☕ 2. Hang Out in Communal Spaces
Once you’re there, don’t hide in your room. Bring your journal, book, or laptop to the lobby, kitchen, or shared patio. Even being around other travelers makes you more approachable—and gives you the chance to observe before jumping in.
Try this:
If you hear someone talking about their day trip or next destination, ask:
“That sounds awesome—how was it?”
A simple question can open the door to real conversation.
🧑🤝🧑 3. Join Group Tours or Classes
Tours are one of the easiest ways to meet people because you’re already doing the same thing, in the same place, with shared interest.
Popular social experiences:
- Walking tours
- Food tours
- Cooking classes
- Pub crawls
- Adventure sports (hiking, diving, ziplining)
- Photography walks
- Yoga classes
These naturally encourage interaction. And since you’re not sitting in a quiet café trying to start a conversation cold, it’s easier to be yourself.
📱 4. Use Apps That Connect Travelers (Not Just Tinder!)
Yes, there are apps and platforms designed for meeting fellow travelers and locals—and not just for dating.
Great options:
- Backpackr – Find travelers nearby with similar plans
- Tandem – Practice language exchange and meet locals
- Couchsurfing “Hangouts” – Meet locals or travelers for coffee or exploring
- Meetup – Find local events by interest (hiking groups, art meetups, etc.)
- Facebook Groups – Look for “[City] Digital Nomads” or “Solo Female Travelers”
Tip:
When you reach out to someone or post in a group, be specific.
Instead of “Anyone want to hang out?” try:
“I’m in Lisbon for 3 days—anyone up for a food market visit or day trip to Sintra this weekend?”
☀️ 5. Say Yes to the Invite (Even If You’re Nervous)
Sometimes the hardest part of making friends is getting over your own hesitation. Maybe you’re worried you’ll be the third wheel, or that you won’t have anything in common.
Say yes anyway.
You don’t have to become best friends. But just going out with someone—even for a short activity—can lead to connections you didn’t expect.
Worst case? You have an okay meal and learn something.
Best case? You make a new friend, discover a hidden gem, or laugh until midnight.
🎯 6. Have a Conversation Starter Ready
You don’t need to memorize jokes or rehearse introductions, but having a few casual openers can ease those first moments.
Try these:
- “Where are you from originally?”
- “Is this your first time here?”
- “What’s been your favorite part of the trip so far?”
- “Do you know a good spot to eat around here?”
- “How long are you traveling for?”
Keep it light. Shared travel stories are gold—you already have something in common.
🙃 7. Learn to Read the Room
Not everyone you meet will be eager to connect—and that’s okay. One of the most respectful and mature things you can do is recognize when someone isn’t interested in chatting.
If someone gives short replies, avoids eye contact, or keeps their headphones in, don’t push it. It’s not about you. Focus your energy where it’s welcomed.
Friendship should feel easy and mutual—not forced.
🌎 8. Attend Local Events or Volunteer
Want a more authentic, less touristy way to meet people? Attend something locals actually go to.
Examples:
- Open mic nights
- Community clean-up events
- Art gallery openings
- Beach yoga sessions
- Language exchange nights
- Volunteering at local NGOs or shelters
You’ll meet people who actually live there—not just other backpackers—and the connections often go deeper.
🧠 9. Shift Your Mindset: Think Connection, Not Performance
A big reason we feel awkward is because we think we have to “be interesting” or “impress” people. That’s exhausting—and unnecessary.
Instead, focus on being curious, kind, and present.
People are drawn to genuine energy. You don’t need to have wild stories or travel hacks. Just listen well, ask questions, and share what you’re comfortable with.
🎒 10. Be Open to All Types of People
Don’t assume you’ll only click with people your age, nationality, or background. Solo travel introduces you to people you might never meet at home—and those unexpected connections are often the best.
You might meet:
- A retired couple who invites you to dinner
- A backpacker from a country you’ve never visited
- A local artist who shows you their city’s hidden side
Stay open. Friendships come in all forms.
🛑 11. What Not to Do When Trying to Make Friends
Let’s quickly cover a few common mistakes that can actually make things awkward or uncomfortable:
🚫 Don’t interrupt private conversations or join uninvited
🚫 Don’t overshare your life story right away
🚫 Don’t try to turn every chat into a long hangout
🚫 Don’t assume people are interested just because they’re polite
🚫 Don’t expect instant best friends—give things time
Friendship, like travel, is about presence, patience, and pace.
🏁 Final Thoughts: Connection Is Closer Than You Think
Making friends while traveling solo doesn’t mean pretending to be someone you’re not. It just means showing up, being open, and saying “yes” a little more than you might at home.
Travel has a funny way of lowering the walls we build—everyone’s out of their comfort zone, looking for connection, and full of stories. All it takes is a smile, a question, or a shared moment to go from stranger to friend.
So don’t wait for someone to talk to you. Take the first step. Be brave. Be kind. Be curious.
You never know who you’ll meet.